Since I was 19 I have helped bring up 3 step children. The eldest 2 being deaf. Originally being from Portsmouth and in a financially comfortable family we had a large house and lots of pets. I’m telling you this because I think its very relevant. I had a LOT of personal space at home growing up and my animals were one of my biggest comforts, without both of these I don’t think I would have coped as well as I did and dread to think what the consequences may have been. I was a very privileged girl, if I wanted something I generally got it. I would even go as far to say that looking back i was a bit of a spoilt brat. I had a bigger than average bedroom to myself my own en suite and my brother and I had our own sitting room too. We had cats, dogs, rabbits, hamsters, lizards, horses and a tortoise. I was by no means lacking anything. But …. things weren’t always smooth sailing. As a child i never knew why I would have these outbursts but I did and they were beyond BAD!
I now live with my husband, Shaun, he has a diagnosed personality disorder and chronic depressive disorder and to be quite honest is an absolute nightmare to live with but for my sins I love him more than I ever knew possible, warts and all, he is 20 years older than me but like a big kid, we work well together .... most of the time.
Living with us we have my profoundly deaf step daughter, Elise (now technically an adult at 21) and my youngest step sn Cameron has just moved back home. Since being together my husband and I have had 5 wonderful children together. Pheobe is 8 and is currently under diagnosis for an ASD. Michael, who is 6, has suspected ADHD and a weak left eye that moves and they are considering patching which i never knew was actually a thing but apparently my mum had a patch as a kid too. Jennifer is 4, she was born with bilateral hip dysplasia grade 4 (worst possible) and is now in a wheelchair, she was non-verbal until very recently, she attends nursery in the mornings now and is absolutely thriving. She has yet to get an official diagnosis for whatever the cause of her problems are but she is one very happy independent little girl and we wouldn't change her for the world. Leticia whose eyes both significantly move outwards is now 3 and we are awaiting treatment options, she was also born with bilateral hip dysplasia but it was very mild and we were given the all clear at a year old, she too goes to nursery school in the mornings with Jennifer. Finally Phoenix our baby of the gang he is 2 years old and has no health issues that we know of as of yet.
I am quite random and sometimes go off on a tangent so this blog may be about general life some days, disabilities others, news, ranting about kids and god knows what else but all I will say is my life is pretty full on and hectic so you may or may not find it interesting but your more than welcome to stick around to find out :)
Thanks for stopping by and I look forward to us getting to know each other better and you joing me on my journey through life as a hectic autistic mum of 5 little ones not to mention the step kids and the big kid that is my husband...
So I am AutisMum, my name is Sarah I’m 28, born in England but live in Scotland. I have diagnosed autism, more specifically Asperger’s Syndrome. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was an adult but always knew I was different. I strongly believe my diagnosis has helped me greatly in dealing with my thoughts and emotions. I was raised well by two loving parents and have an older brother none of which have an ASD that we are aware of. I went to private school and although loved education hated the setting and people, I struggle very much with groups and often over stimulation however I never understood this growing up. If I knew then what I do now things would be much different.
My husband helped me get my diagnosis and shortly after which i was also diagnosed with epilepsy. I suffer from anxiety and am most definitely a recluse. I love to read and make things when i can, I am the Vice chair on the Parent Council at the kids school, I'm obsessed with constantly widening my skill set, gaining certificants and learning new and often obscure things.
“When you focus on someone’s disability you’ll overlook their abilities, beauty and uniqueness. Once you learn to accept and love them for who they are, you subconsciously learn to love yourself unconditionally.”